The Only Real Control We Have (Spoiler: It’s Not Over Other People)

Let’s be real for a minute.
You’re not going to fix that egomaniac in your life.
You’re not going to outmaneuver the narcissist.
And you’re definitely not going to “change” that toxic person who’s been draining your energy like it’s their job.

I know, I know—this isn’t what you want to hear. But it’s what you need to hear. Because here’s the deal:
The only realistic form of control you have in this life is self-control.

That’s it. That’s the truth, in all its uncomfortable glory.

You can’t control how other people treat you. You can’t control how they twist your words, push your buttons, or show up with all the emotional intelligence of a brick wall. You can scream into the void, lose sleep, spiral with overthinking, and still—they’re going to do whatever the hell they want.

But here’s your superpower: you can control how you respond.
That’s not weakness. That’s not giving up. That’s strength. That’s freedom.

Setting boundaries isn’t about changing someone else’s behavior. It’s about saying, “I’m not available for this kind of nonsense anymore.”
Walking away doesn’t mean you lost. It means you’ve decided your peace matters more than trying to win a battle you never signed up for in the first place.
Choosing silence doesn’t make you passive. Sometimes, it’s the loudest thing you can do.

And I get it—we all want justice. We want accountability. We want people to see the light and finally say, “You were right. I was the problem.”
But you’ll wait forever for that moment with some people. And in the meantime, you’re sacrificing your sanity.

So here’s the challenge:
Stop trying to control what’s outside of you, and start mastering what’s within.
Your thoughts. Your choices. Your reactions. Your energy.

Because when you stop trying to change toxic people and start changing how you show up around them, something wild happens:
You get your power back.

And trust me, that feels a hell of a lot better than banging your head against the wall trying to fix people who don’t want to be fixed.

You want control? Take it.
Not over them—over you.
That’s where the real magic is.