Empowerment: Taking Back Your Life

After years of feeling powerless I have finally begun the process of taking ownership of my life. To control my life I must be responsible for it. The first part of taking responsibility is accepting it, instead of denying it exists.

Abuse is about power, and when you’ve been manipulated and guilted for years, it’s not easy to take your power back. When I was dealing with conflict with my family members I often wondered why they were treating me so terribly. Why is this happening to me? How can they be so controlling?

It’s easier to deny what’s happening, then you don’t have to deal with it. I can’t live in denial. It’s unhealthy and harmful.

Now that I have acquired coping skills I choose to liberate myself. I get to choose. I am freeing myself from being a victim. I may not have control over the way others behave toward me, but I do have control over what I will and will not tolerate.

Now I ask, what are my solutions? What am I going to do about this? Do I need to do anything about this?

Empowerment is a choice. It is accepting the realities that exist in the moment. Even if we do nothing, it’s important to realize that doing nothing is also a choice. Once you accept this you become “unstuck” and can create possibilities for yourself that didn’t previously exsist.