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  • “Take Space,” They Said. “Sit in Your Own Energy,” They Said. But What Does It All Mean?

    Have you ever felt like the health and wellness world is speaking in a code only decipherable by crystal-clutching yogis and smoothie enthusiasts? Phrases like “take space,” “create space,” and “sit in your own energy” sound deep, but they also sound like something a self-help guru would chant before disappearing into a puff of sage smoke.

    Don’t get me wrong—I’m all for self-care. But when someone tells me to “create space,” I’m left wondering: do I need to move furniture? Is this a Marie Kondo thing? Or is it like, emotional feng shui?

    So, because I’m a curious soul (and frankly, a bit tired of pretending I know what anyone’s talking about), I decided to decode these mystical phrases for the rest of us mere mortals.

    1. Take Space

    Translation: Go sit in a corner and ignore everyone.
    Apparently, “taking space” is wellness-speak for saying, “Leave me alone so I can drink my coffee in peace.” It’s about carving out time just for yourself, away from your kids, coworkers, or that chatty neighbor who somehow knows when you’re trying to relax.

    Practical Example: Lock yourself in the bathroom and pretend you’re constipated for 20 minutes. Boom. Space taken.

    2. Create Space

    Translation: Clean up your house. Or your brain. Or both.
    This one is trickier because it’s vague on purpose. “Create space” could mean decluttering your living room. It could mean breaking up with that friend who never Venmos you back. It might even mean throwing out your guilt about binge-watching reality TV. The possibilities are endless, and that’s the point: you decide what needs space in your life and what needs to go.

    Practical Example: Toss out those skinny jeans you’re never wearing again. That’s “creating space” and being honest with yourself.

    3. Sit in Your Own Energy

    Translation: Be awkwardly alone with your thoughts.
    This one’s a doozy. “Sit in your own energy” sounds like the wellness version of being grounded for something. And honestly? It kind of is. The idea here is to stop distracting yourself with Instagram, Netflix, or five million tasks and just…exist. Feel your feelings. Think your thoughts. Maybe have a small existential crisis.

    Practical Example: Sit on your couch with no phone, no TV, and no distractions. Yes, it’s weird. Yes, you’ll survive.

    But Why?

    Okay, so now that we’ve translated the lingo, you might wonder: what’s the point of all this? Why do we need to “take space” or “sit in our energy” when we could just doom-scroll like normal people?

    Well, it turns out these practices are about mindfulness and self-care—just wrapped in a blanket of poetic language. They’re meant to help us slow down, reflect, and make space (there’s that word again) for the things that actually matter.

    Do they sound a bit pretentious? Sure. But when you break them down into everyday actions, they’re surprisingly doable. So the next time someone tells you to “take space,” just smile, nod, and go lock yourself in the bathroom. You’ve got this.

    And remember: it’s all just words—until you make it work for you.

  • Embracing the Flow: Living in Harmony with the Universe

    Hey there, fellow seekers of inner peace and spiritual alignment! Today, I wanted to share some musings on the concept of living in process and its profound connection to our existence within the universe.

    Have you ever paused to consider how much of our lives are dictated by the relentless pursuit of control and security? It’s a rat race we’ve all found ourselves in at some point or another. We get caught up in the whirlwind of our daily routines, our jobs, our responsibilities, and somewhere along the way, we lose touch with the very essence of our being—the living process that intertwines with the universe.

    It’s as if our busy lives act as a barrier, separating us from our spirituality and faith. We’re constantly bombarded with messages telling us that we need to be in control, that we must secure our futures at all costs. But in this quest for stability, we inadvertently distance ourselves from the natural ebb and flow of existence.

    Think about it. We expend so much energy trying to make our lives static, to keep things exactly as they are, that we forget to embrace the dynamic nature of the universe. We resist change, fearing the unknown, instead of embracing the beauty of each moment as it unfolds.

    But what if we shifted our perspective? What if we surrendered to the flow of life, trusting in the inherent wisdom of the universe? When we tune in and participate fully in our own process, we find that living becomes infinitely easier. We become attuned to the rhythm of existence, dancing gracefully with the ever-changing currents of life.

    For me, personally, connecting with my process means connecting with the very heartbeat of the universe. It’s a profound sense of oneness, a recognition that we are all threads in the intricate tapestry of existence.

    So, my fellow journeyers, let’s strive to release the shackles of control and embrace the flow. Let’s relinquish our grip on certainty and instead surrender to the unfolding mystery of life. In doing so, we may just discover that living in harmony with the universe is the most natural state of being.

    Until next time, may you find peace in the process.

    With love and light,
    Dana

  • The Art of Forgiveness: A Journey Unique to Each Soul

    Forgiveness is a profound and transformative act that holds the power to heal wounds, mend broken relationships, and release the heavy burden of resentment. It is an intricate and deeply personal journey that cannot be rushed or forced upon anyone. Instead, forgiveness is a delicate art, a process as unique as the individuals who embark upon it. In my own journey toward spiritual growth, the topic of forgiveness comes up often. It has taken a lot of introspection and self-awareness for me to forgive those who have hurt me, whether they have asked for it, or not.

    In the vast tapestry of human emotions, forgiveness stands as a beacon of hope and reconciliation. It is a gift we give not only to others but also to ourselves, freeing our hearts from the chains of anger and bitterness. While it may be a universal concept, the path to forgiveness is anything but one-size-fits-all. Each person’s experience with forgiveness is as distinct as their fingerprints, shaped by their life experiences, values, and the depth of their emotional wounds.

    Forgiveness, to humans, generally means the act of letting go of negative feelings, resentment, or the desire for revenge toward someone who has wronged them. It involves a willingness to pardon or excuse the actions of another person and to release the emotional burden associated with the hurt or offense. Forgiveness can have several important meanings and benefits for individuals:

    1. Emotional Healing: Forgiving someone can help individuals heal from emotional pain and trauma, promoting their own mental and emotional well-being.
    2. Reconciliation: In some cases, forgiveness can lead to reconciliation and the restoration of relationships.
    3. Inner Peace: Forgiveness can bring a sense of inner peace and relief from anger, bitterness, or grudges.
    4. Growth and Empowerment: Forgiving can be a sign of strength and personal growth, allowing individuals to move forward and focus on positive aspects of their lives.
    5. Reducing Conflict: Forgiveness can contribute to reducing conflicts and promoting harmony in personal, social, or even international relationships.
    6. Psychological Benefits: Research suggests that forgiveness is associated with lower stress levels, improved mental health, and increased life satisfaction.

    It’s important to note that forgiveness is a personal and complex process. It doesn’t always mean forgetting or condoning the wrongdoing; rather, it often involves a conscious decision to release the negative emotions and move forward in a healthier way. Different people may have varying perspectives and approaches to forgiveness based on their beliefs, values, and experiences.

    In the intricate tapestry of human existence, forgiveness stands as a testament to our capacity for growth, healing, and resilience. It is a gift we offer ourselves and extend to others, a bridge that can mend even the deepest of divides. This journey is not about erasing the past but about transcending it, allowing our hearts to breathe freely and our souls to find peace. By understanding the multifaceted nature of forgiveness and embracing its transformative power, we embark on a path towards greater empathy, compassion, and the creation of a world where forgiveness can flourish, fostering connections, and healing the wounds that too often divide us.

  • Embracing the Unbreakable Bond: Why Baptism Holds Eternal Promise

    As someone who shares my struggles with my faith and religion, I’m often asked what led me to stop attending Mass, and what led to my return to the Catholic Church. I’m one of many people who has questioned Catholicism and organized religion itself. Religion can be comforting for some and painful for others. I often hear stories from friends who have left the church for various reasons with no intention to return.

    Through prayer, I was able to ask God for His help in leading me to wherever he wanted me to be. I had contemplated other religions and none that I explored felt authentic to me, but I couldn’t put my finger on what it was that made me feel this way. After reading a recent article written by Catholic priest, Father Billy Swan, I was finally able to pinpoint it. I realized that the Catholic Church has never abandoned me, even in my times of turmoil. The Church was always waiting for me, whenever I decided I was ready to come back. Father Swan writes about himself, and of Bishop Robert Barron, and how they view those who wish to leave the Church, as well as those who wish to never return.

    In a world where shifts in faith and affiliation occur, the unshakable commitment of the Church to its members stands as a beacon of hope. Bishop Barron’s reflections remind us of the ‘nones’ and those who have disaffiliated from the Church, prompting contemplation on the depth of their departure.

    The account of a young man seeking to sever ties with the Church highlights the profound connection formed through the sacrament of Baptism. It’s not a mere administrative record; it’s an indelible spiritual seal that forever identifies us as God’s own. The analogy of a birthright resonates — just as a child’s inheritance remains intact despite distance, so does the Church’s love and hope for those who have drifted away.

    This love finds roots in ancient times, seen in God’s fidelity to an unfaithful Israel. The prodigal son’s tale paints an eloquent picture: a son’s mistakes cannot erase his identity as an heir. Paul’s teachings on divine sonship reveal that we are adopted by the Father, sharing in His inheritance through Baptism.

    The Church’s refusal to cancel baptismal records isn’t a bureaucratic decision; it’s a testament to unyielding love. The Church holds tight to the promises made on the day of Baptism, mirroring God’s unwavering devotion. God’s chosen remain chosen, even if they waver or stray.

    The encounter with the disaffiliated youth, although met with initial anger, mirrors the transformative journey of St. Paul — a fervent critic turned passionate advocate. Just as God transformed Paul, there’s boundless potential for this young man. The Church’s prayers continue, echoing the sentiment that no one is forgotten.

    In the world of change, this truth stands unwavering: God and the Church never give up on those who have left. Like the prodigal son’s room, the door is always open. So, as we seek to re-engage and bring back the disaffiliated, let this profound theology inspire our actions and fill our efforts with unending hope. The Church’s love remains eternal, a light guiding us all back to our spiritual home. That love is what brought me home.

  • Navigating Spiritual Abuse and Rediscovering Faith: My Journey of Healing

    In the realm of family dynamics, the influence of faith and spirituality can be both a source of comfort and a tool for manipulation. For many, the family serves as the primary vessel through which religious beliefs are transmitted. However, when those beliefs are used to control and manipulate, the effects can be deeply damaging. This is the story of my journey through spiritual abuse within my family of origin, how I broke free from its grip, and how I eventually found healing and renewed faith.

    Growing up in a family where faith was central, I was raised to revere authority figures, especially those within the religious context. In my family, it was instilled in me that anyone with “authority” over me was essentially speaking God’s word. This belief set the stage for an environment where unquestioning obedience was expected, and deviation from family-defined norms was met with guilt and shame. The lines between divine guidance and personal agendas blurred, leaving me vulnerable to manipulation.

    As a young girl, I experienced a form of spiritual abuse that messed with my perspective on forgiveness and self-worth. Despite Catholic teachings about confession and redemption, I was made to believe that my mistakes were somehow beyond forgiveness, that my sins were an unshakable mark of shame. This led me to constantly feel this overwhelming pressure to be flawless, to maintain this image of perfection that was impossible to uphold. But as humans do, I made mistakes along the way, and each time I stumbled, it felt like the world was crashing down. I couldn’t escape this feeling of worthlessness and irredeemability, like I was just a lost cause. Breaking free from that mindset has been a journey, one that involves reshaping my understanding of spirituality and self-acceptance.

    One of the most damaging aspects of my experience was the misuse of scripture as a means of control. My family would selectively extract verses to reinforce their ideals and manipulate me into conforming to their vision of what my life should be. This manipulation often took the form of guilt-inducing messages, leaving me feeling spiritually obligated to adhere to their expectations. This ultimately led me to a point where I stopped attending Mass altogether, unable to bear the weight of their skewed interpretations of faith.

    Recognizing the toxicity of the situation, I realized the importance of setting healthy boundaries with family members who were intent on molding me into a role that didn’t align with my authentic self. It was a challenging and necessary step to redefine the boundaries of our relationship, asserting my autonomy and refusing to be constrained by their expectations. This process was both liberating and painful, as I confronted the discomfort of asserting my own beliefs and values.

    Walking away from the abuse was just the first step. Over time, I began to rebuild my relationship with God on my terms. Slowly, I started attending Mass again, this time with a newfound sense of agency. But it was through the Alpha program that I truly began to deconstruct the distorted perspectives of how Christianity should be practiced. Alpha provided a safe space to ask questions, challenge assumptions, and rediscover spirituality in an authentic and transformative way.

    My journey through spiritual abuse within my family of origin was marked by manipulation, control, and the courage to break free. The conditioning that led me to equate authority with divine truth proved to be a tangled web that required careful unraveling. Through the process of setting boundaries and seeking healing, I learned that faith is a deeply personal journey—one that should empower and uplift, rather than restrict and confine.

    If you find yourself entangled in a similar situation, remember that you have the right to define your relationship with God, and your faith, on your terms. Setting boundaries with family members who seek to shape your identity is an act of self-preservation and a step towards reclaiming your autonomy. Just as I found healing and renewed faith through the Alpha program, there are resources available to help you navigate your own journey towards spiritual freedom and authentic connection.

  • The Art of Evangelization: Understanding the Difference between Evangelism and Proselytism

    Writing is a therapeutic outlet for me as I overcome traumas from my past. One of the topics I feel strongly called to write about is religion. When I struggled with my own Catholic faith, the religion I was raised in, I often searched for other writers who experienced similar issues. Instead of finding answers, I found frustration. Growing up, my religion was dictated to me by my parents and elders. It didn’t feel like it belonged to me. Guilt and shame were used to manipulate and I struggled with my beliefs. I stopped attending Mass and I felt lost. I needed a “do-over.”

    As I deconstructed the religion I learned in childhood, I began to learn about Catholicism organically. I developed a curiosity about my faith, and I did not allow outside forces to interfere with this process. I started reading books on what it means to be Catholic, the dogma and tradition of the religion, and how it pertained to my life. Eventually, I returned to church and began volunteering at my parish. Sharing my journey with others and helping them reclaim their faith has been a blessing.

    In the realm of religion and spirituality, the act of spreading one’s faith is a topic that has generated much discussion and controversy over the years. Pope Francis, a prominent spiritual leader known for his progressive views, recently shed light on the distinction between evangelization and proselytism. His elucidation of these terms offers valuable insights into the way believers interact with those of different faiths or those seeking spiritual guidance.

    Recently Pope Francis was asked to clarify the distinction between evangelization and proselytism. Bishop Robert Barron stated in a recent article that “the Holy Father clearly stated that by ‘proselytism,’ he means an attempt at evangelization that is aggressive, brow-beating, condescending, and disrespectful.”

    At first glance, the words “evangelization” and “proselytism” might seem interchangeable, as both involve sharing one’s faith. However, Pope Francis emphasizes a crucial distinction between the two that lies in the manner in which they are carried out.

    Evangelization: The Heart of Sharing Faith

    Evangelization is at the core of many religious teachings and serves as a means to share one’s faith with sincerity, compassion, and humility. It is a way of conveying the values, beliefs, and teachings of a particular faith community with the intention of fostering understanding, empathy, and spiritual growth. True evangelization seeks to inspire through example, inviting others to explore the faith’s principles and beliefs without coercion or manipulation.

    Proselytism: Beyond Sharing Faith

    Proselytism, on the other hand, takes a more forceful approach. It involves attempting to convert others to one’s faith through aggressive tactics, disregarding their beliefs and perspectives. This form of sharing faith often comes across as insensitive, disrespectful, and overbearing. Proselytism focuses on the end result of gaining new converts, sometimes at the expense of meaningful dialogue and mutual respect.

    Understanding the Nuances

    Pope Francis’ distinction between evangelization and proselytism underscores the importance of the approach taken when sharing one’s faith. The act of evangelization should arise from a place of genuine care for others, aiming to foster harmony, mutual learning, and respect among different faith communities. It encourages believers to listen, understand, and engage in conversations that promote spiritual growth for everyone involved.

    In contrast, proselytism’s aggressive nature can be counterproductive, creating barriers and animosity between individuals of varying beliefs. Rather than facilitating meaningful conversations, proselytism often elicits defensiveness and closes the door to open-minded exploration.

    The Path Forward: A Call for Respectful Dialogue

    Pope Francis’ perspective on evangelization and proselytism provides a roadmap for believers to engage in meaningful conversations about faith, spirituality, and the human experience. It invites us to approach such discussions with empathy, humility, and a willingness to learn from one another. In an increasingly diverse world, respectful dialogue becomes the bridge that connects people of different faiths and backgrounds, fostering a sense of shared humanity.

    In a world that is becoming more interconnected yet remains diverse in terms of beliefs, Pope Francis’ clarification on the distinction between evangelization and proselytism offers a timely lesson. It reminds us that sharing one’s faith is not just about the message being conveyed but also about the manner in which it is shared. By embracing the principles of genuine dialogue, empathy, and respect, we can create a space where diverse perspectives are celebrated and spiritual growth is nurtured.

  • Sacred Insights: Reflection on John 3:16-18

    One of my goals for the year was to read the Bible more. It’s not an easy feat, given how busy we are. I have started off well, then let myself lapse, and now I’m trying my best to be consistent in my reading. We’ll see how this goes.

    One of the bible versus I’ve had memorized since I was a young kid in catechism class is in the gospel of John, where God the Father sacrifices his own son, Jesus, to pay the debt of human sin. Today I read the verse with fresh eyes and I wanted to share my thoughts.

    John 3:16-18 is a profound and impactful passage that encapsulates the essence of Christianity and the message of God’s love and salvation. This verse holds a special place in the hearts of believers as it unveils the core principles of faith, grace, and redemption. Let’s delve into a reflective exploration of these verses:

    John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

    This verse serves as a poignant reminder of the magnitude of God’s love. It’s a declaration that His love is boundless and all-encompassing, extending to every corner of the world and to every individual. The concept of God giving His only Son emphasizes the depth of His sacrificial love, as Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice on the cross symbolizes God’s desire for reconciliation with humanity. As believers, we’re invited to embrace this love and accept the gift of eternal life through faith in Jesus Christ.

    John 3:17: “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.”

    This verse shifts our perspective from fear and condemnation to hope and salvation. It underscores God’s intention behind sending Jesus to the world. Instead of coming to pass judgment, Jesus came to offer a path to salvation. It’s a profound reminder that God’s desire is not to condemn but to redeem, to rescue us from our brokenness and sin. This message encourages believers to approach God with confidence, knowing that His arms are open wide for those who seek His grace.

    John 3:18: “Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.”

    This verse highlights the importance of faith in Jesus Christ as the foundation of salvation. Belief in Him is the transformative key that removes the weight of condemnation. It stresses the role of our own choices in accepting or rejecting God’s offer of redemption. The verse underscores that the ultimate condemnation lies not in God’s judgment, but in choosing to remain separated from the source of life and light. It urges us to ponder the significance of our beliefs and their eternal consequences.

    Reflecting on these verses, I am reminded of the immense privilege we have in embracing God’s love and salvation. It’s a call to respond to His love with trust and faith, allowing it to shape our lives and draw us into a deeper relationship with Him. As we internalize the message of John 3:16-18, may we be inspired to share this transformative love with others and to live out the faith that springs from the wellspring of God’s boundless grace.

  • New Year, New Energy

    Seven days into the new year and I’m feeling energized. Focused. Determined. Ready to kick ass and take names. Have you ever looked up that phrase? I heard it used often as a child and I pictured someone literally kicking another person’s ass and then asking them, “Hey, what’s your name?” I find that funny. Also, I learned that this idiom means to be unequivocally dominant and in control in some situation. I think it suits me.

    I am undergoing a transformation, a personal revolution. I woke up one day between Christmas and New Year’s and decided that the time has come to put everyone else’s bullshit behind me, to stop wasting time and energy on people who don’t deserve me, and to make myself a priority.

    Selfish? Yes. Necessary? Absofuckinglutely.

    Prioritizing my own self-care has taken on a new meaning. I have consistently exercised this week. This has been something I’ve struggled with because I go through phases. I will work out several days in a row and then skip a day, only to find it’s difficult to get back on the horse. Or treadmill, rather. But this week I ran or walked on the treadmill 4 days and walked the dog outside in the frozen tundra twice. It feels amazing to log food and exercise on MyFitnessPal. Consistency is the key to success.

    I’m also working on personal growth. Meditation and visualization have become a part of my morning routine. At night I read the Bible with my kids. Spiritual growth is important to me, and I’m exploring my own religion, as well as learning about other practices.

    The most important lesson I’ve learned is that I need to step out of my comfort zone. It’s easy to do what’s familiar. The hard things are where growth is found.

    For once, I’m unequivocally in control of my life.

    How is your New Year so far? What changes are you making in your life?